[Eng] 'The Green' Contraception (part 2)

The first two of main cause in 'contraception' by marriage has been discussed here. Shall I remind you again, my explanations regarding these methods criticizing people who disrespect this Institution.
Thus my second post this time, will revolving around the marriage life of any couple which prevent conception and expansion of their family members.

3) Loyalty of Cheater, Brings Out the Green Monster

Okay, stop picturing the thin green stuffed frog from Sesame Street. That
monster is hug-gable. Perhaps you could bring him out if you use it to cuddle when you cry. Please, not the Big Green Muscular Beast who crushes everything in his path while saying his name and what he is doing out loud. Unless that beast is what will comes out when you are angry. More over, why on earth would you use them for a method?



I'm referring green as the color of jealousy or envy. The color green has been associated with jealousy and envy in English-spoken culture from which the expressions "green with envy". The term brought-up by Shakespeare in Othello. That is why this has nothing to do with Kermit the Frog and The Hulk.

Any one should pray that their love life are away from betrayal and two-timing (please, not more than that). By becoming life-time partner (or divorced or till death-do-us-apart), we exchange more old packages between another. Learning that he/she has befriend with too many people of the opposite sex.

Knowing that his/her past live swing from another person to another until the day meeting you. For this too much of information stored in our mind, jealousy might be build slowly. But shouldn't we be start with a little concern, if any of our spouse plays out of the ordinary, instead of wild accusations?

Two-timing for money and seeking for affectionate attention is different from adulterer, but the latter could get both. Try not to accuses people of cheating commits adultery, because some might still have the sane level not to.

The relative difference between 'concern' and 'jealousy' is a vast. One who concern to another will have feelings of worry, compassion, sympathy or regard for them, because it a matter that affects both people. But if it glows with jealousy, its the opposite. The person will become possessively watchful, demanding loyalty or adherence (talk about controlling) until a certain point, they'll go suspicions along with wild accusations.

Verse 6-10, Surah An-Nur (The Light):

And those who accuse their wives [of adultery] and have no witnesses except themselves - then the witness of one of them [shall be] four testimonies [swearing] by Allah that indeed, he is of the truthful.

And the fifth [oath will be] that the curse of Allah be upon him if he should be among the liars.

But it will prevent punishment from her if she gives four testimonies [swearing] by Allah that indeed, he is of the liars.

And the fifth [oath will be] that the wrath of Allah be upon her if he was of the truthful.

And if not for the favor of Allah upon you and His mercy... and because Allah is Accepting of repentance and Wise.

When a man or a woman cheated their spouse, the obvious changes is toward their relationships. They'll try to be distant from another. It is either by way they are addressing themselves (honey, hubby, love, baby, sayang), change in the tone of voice, spacing from another, not interested with anything regarding one another perhaps, no interest in skin-contact too. Though the deceiver might not realize his/her behavior, but the deceived, they eventually will . Unless both of them are culprits, in this case, silence might be the topic of discussions.

Husbands, if you want to marry more than one, just say it. Don't ever went behind her back to take another hand and kept the truth to both wives. In Islam, we need to be just, even having two wives or more, doesn't mean that we should ignoring the old ones. By telling her the truth, none of her needs (Nafakah) were neglected.

While ladies, should never think to bring home nor going places with another man without informing your own husband. Even for work purposes, neither should you ignore the role of your husband, which is to protect you. Not knowing, will open up many rumors and threats toward another. Even if the intention of any meeting (either husband or wife) is good, but if the news was brought up to the spouse by someone else, its going to be 'major coverage' when things going out of hand.


When a couple marries one another, they should puts their priority of the family first. By placing them in the right moment, should gave the opportunity to care of the kids, the parents & the in-laws. As the family bonds stronger, so thus the community. So that the respect to one another is build & nourish for better quality of mankind.

[Conclusion]